My ex is the queen of spin. She should have found a way to take a job as a political advisor. She has an ability that is almost magical (black arts but still) in her ability to get people to believe her and for the remainder of the Grim Tales posts, I'll refer to her as Darth because she has a Sith Lord's ability to manipulate people.
When we decided to get divorced, she started a propaganda campaign that was so intense and so all-encompassing that only a handful of people weren't caught in the net. People who a week before were sympathetic to me because even though I was married, I was raising my daughters essentially as a single parent and doing a dang good job at it, now felt it necessary to rush in and rescue my daughters from my evil grasp.
When we were married, Darth used to complain that my daughters liked me better. They were both daddy's girls. You want to know the secret to that. Spend lots of loving time with your kids. I had to step in several times to back her off of her verbal rampages against these girls who were (and still are) both incredibly smart, beautiful, and well-behaved. Quality time will naturally occur during quantity time.
She made a blitzkrieg attempt over a weekend and continued for years to make sure that the propaganda never wore off. She was so effective that even members of my family believed her. In all subsequent court battles, Tia and I found ourselves all alone in trying to save the girls. It was frustrating in that we were so truthful and Darth was so deceiving and yet people believed her. There have been costs involved, not just to my daughters but to others as well.
I figured out that she was embezzling money from her company. I don't remember how I figured it all out but I did. We reported it to the authorities who most likely dismissed the accusation because I was probably just making it all up to cause problems for my ex. That kind of things happens all the time and I'm not surprised that nothing was done. Darth went to her employers immediately to put her spin on it and let them know that the accusation would be coming because I was being spiteful and trying to make her life rough.
Over a year later, she was fired. Any guesses why? Anyone? Anyone? Something D-O-O economics? She had been embezzling money. Shocking, I know. The amount that they were able to prove? $13,000.
How much would they have saved had they looked into it when it was reported?
There is good news from this story. There is probably a felony warrant out for her arrest because she immediately fled the state when she was fired and probably hasn't taken care of the legal aspect of this bit of "borrowing." That means that it's very unlikely that she will ever return. Schwing!
Here's a funny addendum to the story. This event came up recently in a conversation between a family member and Darth's mother where it was revealed that Darth really had embezzled thousands of dollars.
"You mean Success Warrior wasn't lying?" she asked.
"No, he wasn't lying," was the answer.
It's funny now but it was extremely frustrating back then to be the one telling the truth and having my words completely dismissed.
Darth's mom recently found out about the drug abuse which I had also "lied" about. Tia and I have always thought that time was on our side. If we just continued to do what was right, the truth would eventually come out. A drug addicts life and all the lies that hide that life eventually fall apart leaving a very ugly truth behind and a lot of people who feel angry at being lied to, used, and manipulated. That feeling is much worse when these people look back and see that there was someone telling the truth all along and they chose to ignore it. What's left is a lot of bitterness. Bitterness and guilt when they realize what my daughters were put through and that they helped put the girls into that situation.
Tia was funny the other night. Let me give you the back story.
A couple members of my family like Darth and think very highly of her. They like her more than me and think she's a far better person than my current wife. They helped emancipate my oldest daughter to help her escape from me and helped Darth harass me on a daily basis until I would give custody of my youngest daughter to Darth. Phone calls, police, calls from child protective services saying that they knew it was a custody ploy but they were required to investigate anyway, and the list goes on. Day after day they put pressure on my youngest daughter until she requested to move out just to escape all their pressure. Day after day, they put pressure on me to allow it because it would be the best thing for her. They eventually won and my daughter was subjected to 2 years of living hell which an aunt has recently rescued her from. The drug addiction and emotional abuse had gotten even worse.
Darth is emotionally abusive, a drug addict, a thief, a pathological liar, selfish to the point of harming friends and family, and who knows what else. In short, she is the most evil person that I personally know.
My wife on the other hand is caring and honest (brutally honest sometimes). She's a hard worker and I don't say that lightly. She has worked 7 days a week for the last 18 months so that we could pay off the student loan. Even with it paid off, she continues to work that much so we can pay off our van. She is going to college at the same time working toward being a psychologist. And if that's not enough, she still takes time to read with Trey, take him to the park, play baseball with him, and plan a night a week where she gets together with parents of other 2 and 3 year olds so that he can play with other kids.
After we learned the extent of the embezzlement and were on our way home, she said, "Now I'm even more offended."
We would talk about other things but she would keep coming back to this. Some of my family think that she will never be as good as Darth but it's like comparing oranges and rotten apples. It's laughable from a third party point of view. There is nothing to compare.
The reason that I have never written about any of this is because Darth would have taken it out on my daughters. Now that they are both safely out of Darth's house, I am free to you the stories. There are some doozies too and I'm going to share some that really tell about how strong her Sith powers are. The first few years with Tia were consumed with these events and I have kept quiet to protect my daughters but now it seems that the truth is coming out on its own and I might as well add my part.
I'll also continue with my August 6th story and my P90X journal (which will be short this week because of my injury).
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